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December 30th, 2008

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I recently got married on August 24th, 2008. It was a very busy ordeal. There were over 200 people at my wedding. Preparation for the wedding was tough, but overall, I think that everything went well. I like being married. Marriage is good, but like any other relationship there are always hardships to overcome. Getting married will not solve any previous problems that were in your relationship. There is no magic formula that allows life to be easier for married folk. Being married is a job, you have to work at it if you want it to work.

Marriage began in the bible with Adam and Eve. Eve was created to be Adam’s companion and wife. God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). When Eve was created, she and Adam were to be one. ”This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:23-24). This is what marriage is about. You and the person you marry should become one. There should be no room for selfishness.

When you and your mate become one, there should be a sense of sacredness because marriage is a gift from God. ”Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6). Marriage should be taken more serious. Too many people get married for the wrong reasons. This is evident because of the high divorce rates (America has a 50% divorce rate. Check out http://www.divorcerate.org/). People marry for wealth, status, and convenience. People should get married for love.

Take a look at the helpful marriage tips below. These are tips that I will start to use more.

Prayer - This is the most important key to a successful marriage. You and your mate should pray together everyday. The devil likes to keep confusion going. Pray that God rids you of that serpent. Pray for understanding, good health, patience, and anything else that you think will help your marriage.
Communication - I think this is the second most important key to a successful marriage. Don’t just listen, try to understand your mate. Try to understand their point of view and why they have that point of view. On the other side, be willing to express your views. Don’t keep things to yourself and don’t let things build up inside of you. This will just cause more problems.
Do things together - It is very important that you and your mate spend time together. Exercise together, go for walks, go to plays. Try to be as active as possible.
Be Supportive - Always be supportive of your mate. Support their endeavors, be honest but don’t tear them down. Give suggestions if necessary.
Keep your business private - Do not go and broadcast any of your marital problems to your friends or family. Your marriage is between you and your mate. If you need help, see a pastor or a marriage counselor. IF YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, GET OUT AND PLEASE CONTACT THE POLICE. Introducing friends or family to your personal business is one of the worst things that you can do for your marriage.

Getting married is a promise between you and your partner. Marriage is a sacred bond. Follow God’s word in everything that you do and pray daily. Here are my wedding vows:

As we stand before both God and man making public our commitment to one another, I wish to make it known that I recognize God’s authority over my life, which is exercised from His loving heart. He has chosen me to be one of His own. I recognize also that He has blessed me, and entrusted to me your life. In recognition of these things, I, Richard Harris affirm my love to you Alisha McCamy as I invite you to share my life as my wife, my partner, and my one true love. You are beautiful, smart, and generous and I promise to always respect you with kindness, unselfishness and trust, I will work by your side to create a wonderful life together. I purpose to love you with God’s love, to provide for your needs through His enablement, and to lead you as He leads me, as long as He gives me life, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health for as long as we both shall live. Alisha, I look forward to establishing a home where Christ is glorified. Toward that end I promise to allow God to use you in my life as He sees fit. I thank Him for you and your love. Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail. Love is eternal. I love you.